Thursday, November 5, 2015

Thanksgiving - 2015 from the McFreedoms

It has been quite a while since McFreedom has written a post.  He is finding his time is filled up much of the day with his work in the laundry and with relational ministry.  I think he is amazed by the “lack” of time to do these writing things.  The reality of time behind bars is quite a bit different than the picture he had imagined prior to incarceration.

That being said, I have also not posted  much this year and I have felt that, entering this Thanksgiving season, we have so much that we are thankful for - it is time to share. 

On October 30th, Bryan and I “celebrated” the third anniversary of his being a resident at a Federal Correctional Facility.  While it may seem hardly worthy of celebrating such an occasion, we are thankful that he is safe, content in his environment, has good Christian brothers to encourage him and that he feels God using him in this place.  We are thankful for the provision God has blessed us with as a family; meeting every need.  We are thankful for the health we both have enjoyed this year – though I have probably fared better than Bryan (prisons tend to be a breeding ground for every virus that is around.) 

We are especially thankful this year for a new granddaughter, Hope Anne, who graced us with her arrival on June 12th.  She is a joy.  Bryan hasn’t gotten to officially meet her yet, but he was the first to be told of her anticipated birth last October.  We are “hopeful” that Hope will be able to travel out with Jake and Emily this coming Spring to meet Grandpa.  In the meantime, we will send photos to him and continue to show the Grandpa pictures to Hope so he will be a part of her life.  This little girl has the most cheerful, happy disposition.  She loves to be sung to and if you stop singing – she will pick it up and carry on in her own little song. 

We are also thankful to our children, Jake, Emily, JohnMark and Andrea for their support and help.  I know it is a comfort to Bryan that he can count on them to watch out for me.   I appreciate all the ways they help me and the fact that they keep me company on those times when Bryan’s absence is too much to bear. 

We also give thanks for our two older grandchildren, Abigail and Tyler, who were able to travel out to Ohio to visit Bryan in October with me (and Andi and JohnMark).  They were great travel buddies and Bryan really enjoyed seeing them and playing games while they visited.  He was amazed at how they have grown and matured in the past two years. 

I am also so thankful for Bryan's family and the way they accept me as one of their own.  I feel loved and welcomed and even "missed" when I can't participate in an event.  I am blessed to spend time with them and appreciate all they have done for me.

This morning I started a daily Bible reading program through YouVersion and chose one that is called “Remembering All He Has Done”.  The passage for today was Joshua 4.  These verses are the ones that Bryan and I clung to in the months prior to his incarceration as we sought for hope in knowing this long separation could be fatal to many marriages.  The summer before sentencing, we had one last family vacation on the North Shore of Lake Superior and rented a vacation home.  On Sunday, Bryan led our family in a devotional based on this passage and then we jumped in our vehicles and drove to a nearby river and each of us picked up a stone from the river to bring back.  Bryan created a ‘memorial’ fountain out of those stones, much like Joshua did in the Bible story.   I have that fountain still running as a reminder to “Remember all that God has done for us”. 

I will continue to remember how He has brought us through this trial and has grown each of us personally and even more importantly as a couple to seek Him first and to trust Him for every breath and every move.   We share our story openly, not out of bitterness or anger, but out of amazement at what God can use for good.

We are also thankful to each of you who care enough about Bryan and me to follow this blog and want you to know that it means so much to us.

Happy Thanksgiving!!!

Jeannie


Thursday, January 15, 2015

Happy Anniversary -- She Said, He Said

January 13th, 2015
Today is Bryan and my 14th wedding anniversary! I was able to spend this past weekend with him. It amazes me how God has grown our marriage in the past 2 years -- even though we have only spent about 25 days together! We get to talk almost every day for 15 minutes. We email every day. But the thing that has grown our marriage is how we spend the time when we are NOT together...praying for each other!!! We take comfort in the thought that no matter what is going on with each other, we know without a doubt that the other is covering us with petitions to the Father to protect, bless and comfort. Do we struggle with the loneliness and day-to-day frustrations? Without a doubt! But more often than not, when I pick up the laptop to write a message to my love, I'll get an alert that Bryan has sent me a message!!!! That is such a blessing to my heart! 
The first month that Bryan was incarcerated, I connected with a woman whose husband had been in prison for 15 years. She had written a book about surviving when you have a husband in prison. I got to talk to her and enjoyed hearing from someone who had been through this HOWEVER, at the end of the conversation, she said, "Our marriage didn't survive -- he just changed so drastically from the prison experience that they divorced after he was released." That frightened me at the time. As I see how my love has grown and how he has become so much more supportive of our marriage over these past two years, I can not imagine the same outcome for us. We are both eagerly anticipating the day that he can be home and we can start again!!!
Happy Anniversary to my darling husband. I will love you FOREVER and I look forward to serving God together in ministry. (Whatever that might look like.)
You just KNEW that Bryan would have to have the "last word" regarding my Anniversary post, didn't you???? Well, I will let him have the last word...because...well, see for yourself:
"I am overwhelmed by the blessing of our marriage and am truly grateful that we have a God who gave us the covenant of marriage to show us how He loves us. Especially, in light of the fact that I was willing to dissolve our marriage prior to being charged with my crime. You see, I wanted to "spare" my wife and family of the shame of my sin, which was about to flood our family. But, thanks to a "stubborn wife" and Godly people in our church communities in Eau Claire and Marshfield, they helped me to see that God could overcome the shame!! All I had to do was accept the redemption that Jesus offered and He gave us the courage to continue our marriage, no matter what was going to happen. It was at that point in our marriage that we put a "stake in the ground" declaring Satan would NOT tear us apart, because we have a God that is bigger than any shame our sin could create. That was when our marriage began to grow in a way I could never have imagined!
I can understand why the woman in Jeannie's post ended her marriage in divorce. I am surrounded by men who were either divorced before incarceration or during their prison sentence. It is devastating to them and often leaves them with no hope. It is true what that woman said about her husband: prison does change people. This fact has become somewhat of a challenge to me: I vow not to let prison change me in the way so many are. I love my wife and I want to support her in every way I can, despite the distance of miles. Our wedding vows are for life, no matter what comes between us. Prison HAS changed me!!! It is making me a better man and I hope, a more Godly man. This marriage will stand the test of time because God has blessed it and continues to nurture it."
McFreedom (Bryan)